Senior Mindset Coach at Samuel and Co Trading. While studying and practising many energy healing systems spanning 40 years (EFT, TAT, TCM, Yuen Method, NLP, Applied Kinesiology, Qigong etc). He gained qualifications in Massage, Reflexology, Hypnotherapy and Psychotherapy. His goal is to continue to help his clients experience freedom from life’s emotional trauma, stress, negativity, limiting beliefs and to holistically balance the Mind, Body and Spirit.
Hi everyone. In this article, I’m going to suggest some different ways for you to talk to your Genie – your subconscious mind to create change.
Yes, that’s right – your subconscious mind is your genie. The problem is that you didn’t realise that you had your very own personal genie. The life you’re living right now; the job you have, the car you drive, your hobbies, thoughts, feelings, beliefs, dreams, fantasies etc. are programmes created by your subconscious from every experience you’ve ever had, through all your senses. Good or bad, positive or negative, helpful or unhelpful, these programmes, as I’ve mentioned in previous articles, help you to engage with the world around you. It’s only now that you’re at an age where you’re consciously aware of what you want to do in life, achieve or experience and wonder why it’s so difficult to get what you want or change.
We are all actors, acting out a play and the world is the stage. The problem is that we’re not quite sure what the play is about, there are no rehearsals, we’re not happy with our lines or the part we’re playing and the finale is unknown – it’s a journey of trial and error. The secret to becoming the director is to pay attention to the script you’re writing on a daily basis and change it. The words you use and the emotion that accompanies those words have a very specific effect on your subconscious as well as some other criteria, so let me explain.
First, and foremost, your subconscious mind, your genie, is creating 95% of your daily reality, based on your programming – it’s in charge. You are consciously in control for only 5% of the day and so your typical thinking is ruled by the subconscious. Until we change our thoughts and beliefs, we can’t change our life. So, if you want to earn more money, get a new job, start up a business or take up a new hobby etc. and you’re only in control of only 5% of your life, you’d better make sure that your subconscious is 95% in agreement with you consciously, otherwise it’s never going to happen. Put simply, if you were in a tug-of-war game and you had 5 team members and the other team had 95 members, who’s going to win the game? So you have to get the subconscious on your side. It’s also important to point out that the subconscious ’thinks’ like a 2-year-old child and so your language has to be very simple and explicit.
Always talk to your subconscious in the present tense – time does not exist for the subconscious. Its job is to keep you alive, right now, this second and that’s the only concern. If you repeat positive statements each day (affirmations), make sure that you phrase them in the present tense (now). For example, I will be wealthy in the future. It’s a positive statement – yes. And your subconscious will agree with the statement but, you will never be wealthy. Why? Because every second of time that passes for the conscious mind, is in the future, and your statement is composed for the future, so it will never manifest in the (now). A better way to phrase the statement would be: Each and every day I’m becoming more and more wealthy.
Invisible words and feelings – some words are invisible to the subconscious, such as “won’t” and “don’t”. If you wanted to give up smoking and you used the affirmation, “I don’t want to smoke”, your subconscious would see “I want to smoke” and you may end up smoking even more. A better statement would be “my lungs are healthy and I enjoy breathing in fresh clean air every day”. Likewise, if you wanted to lose weight and make the statement, “I don’t want to gain weight”, your subconscious would see “I want to gain weight”. A better way would be to say “each and every day I imagine myself feeling thinner and lighter, thinner and lighter”. Or, “I eat healthy, nutritious food every day and my body feels good and looks fantastic”. Focus on the positive outcome.
Positive statements are great but what enhances them, even more, is when you include feelings. Feelings are about invoking your emotions. Emotions are a driving force – energy in motion (e-motion). As I’ve mentioned in previous articles, everything in the universe that you can observe through your senses at a quantum level is energy; buildings, cars, paper, money, air, water – everything. You’re living in a sea of energy, you just don’t think of it in those terms because we live in a solid physical world. Our eyes are not microscopes and cannot see the sub-atomic particles that go to make up everything. If we could then, it would be like watching the film ‘The Matrix’ at the end, where Neo finally ‘gets it’ and sees everything in the form of numbers moving. Your emotions vibrate at specific frequencies and affect your body, whether you’re aware of it or not. You may have had the experience of feeling heavy, slow and lethargic or light and energetic, full of energy? Your emotions change your physiology and your physiology changes your psychology. Positive thoughts, feelings and emotions raise your bodies frequency and make you feel empowered, energetic and alive, wanting to do things. While negative thoughts, feelings and emotions weaken your bodies energy and make you feel heavy, tired, lethargic with a ‘can’t be bothered attitude’. The more excited you become about something, the higher your vibrational frequency and the more positive you will feel.
Be specific – remember that your subconscious ‘thinks’ like a 2-year-old, so keep the language short, positive and in the present (now). Don’t use ambiguous terms like ‘soon’, ‘somehow’ or ‘someway’. The subconscious cannot quantify the words because it’s too vague and will mean different things to a 2-year-old and a grown-up.
For example, the statement “I’m going to get a better job” is a positive statement but it’s too wishy-washy, vague and not specific enough. A better statement would be, “I easily and effortlessly earn £50,000 a year as a forex trader, and, as a result, I get to spend lots of quality time with my family and friends because I deserve it”. Small statements are fine but, if you can expand them to create a more inclusive picture with greater emotional content the better. This principle applies to money, business, love, relationships, health – everything that you want to improve.
Your internal dialogue – I mentioned in my last article about paying attention to your internal dialogue, your inner voice, what you’re thinking and changing any negative thoughts into a positive statement or outcome. Negative thoughts, emotions and feelings will weaken your energy system and will affect everything that you do. It’s estimated that we have between 50-65,000 mental conversations per day, so be mindful of your thoughts, they’re either constructive or destructive.
Remember that your subconscious controls 95% of what you do, think and experience on a daily basis. You’re in control of only 5% of your time but, that 5% can change the other 95% and bring about monumental changes to your life. Also, remember that what you focus on, you attract and that the two extremes of the brain are pain vs pleasure, both of which are vibrational frequencies. Pain has a slow frequency and can get ‘stuck’ in the matrix of the bodies energy field (joints), while pleasure, has a higher frequency and is able to move around faster and raise the rest of the bodies energy to a higher level. The subconscious will try and mask (filter out) the painful frequency in favour of the pleasurable frequency. During the continuous process of monitoring our environment, the subconscious automatically responds to the dominant emotion being experienced at any given moment, whether that emotional experience is real or imagined – the subconscious is neutral, and then the subconscious selects a programme to deal with the situation.
So let’s put all of this information into a typical daily scenario to understand what happens and what needs to be done in order to create a different outcome. Let’s just think about the need for more money. The mere fact you’re thinking about money, the subconscious automatically does a Google search into your library (memory) of experiences around money, including the emotions experienced at the time in order to make sense of the current situation you’re experiencing. If you don’t earn a lot of money, if you’re struggling to pay the bills, you’re overdrawn in the bank or over your credit card limit – it doesn’t matter. The energy pattern attached to those memories will be negative, it’ll weaken your overall energy system, and, create a negative mindset.
What is important are the emotions that are connected to the thoughts. You may be angry or frustrated, feeling helpless or that you’re not good enough or clever enough or even deserving enough to earn more money. All these thoughts, feelings and emotions are normal and natural. Running these programmes (thinking) over and over again creates emotional patterns, sending the same dominant (negative) frequency to the subconscious mind creates the same thing. You feel stuck and can’t break out of the cycle. It feels as if the world is against you, that you’re not good or clever enough or worthy of earning more money. According to your subconscious – job done! What you believe is what you’ve got.
It’s at this point that you need to stop – and pay attention to your thoughts. If you want a different outcome, then you have to change your thinking and your emotions. When people repeat ‘affirmations’, positive statements like “I’m rich or I’m wealthy” over and over again and nothing seems to change it’s because they’re not ‘feeling’ it. They’re associating the same limitations with the affirmations. It’s not just the words, it’s the energy (frequency) attached to it. It’s connecting the required outcome with the right emotion into the present moment. When you can do that, you send a new, different (higher) frequency to the subconscious mind. Whether the new emotion is real or imagined – the subconscious is neutral, ‘fake it ‘till you make it’, and the subconscious will create a new experience. Repetition creates a new, different programme for the subconscious to replace the ‘old’ existing limiting programme.
When you ‘feel’ different is when you consciously become aware of a new vibration. Feeling different is evidence that something has changed and that you’re reprogramming your subconscious with a new frequency, new energy and a new, different reality. Start looking at the different parts of your life that you want to change, whether it’s to do with money, health, relationships etc. create a powerful emotion to go with it and see yourself as if you’ve achieved it or are experiencing it. Fist pump the air and shout out loud ‘Yeeeesssssss,’ just like footballers scoring a goal, golfers getting a hole-in-one, tennis players winning the match etc. you get the idea – feel it, ‘fake it ‘till you make it, trick the subconscious mind. Use the 5% of your conscious mind to send a new frequency to your subconscious mind, regardless of what’s happening in the world around you and manifest a new life.
As always, I hope you have enjoyed the input and has given you something to think about. I look forward to seeing any discussions and interaction from the community.